I have nothing but respect for working mothers! I just don't have respect for people who think stay at home mothers have it easy. It's a huge argument, apparently. This isn't an attack on the working mother. I just will not stand for someone calling any type of Mother lazy.
There are two options for mothers:
1] You work, pay someone to care for your child (their job.) You clean the house when you get home.
2] You care for the child yourself (work.) You clean the house, etc with children running around.
Both sound pretty challenging to me...
But, here's my attempt to gain a little more respect for the stay at home Mom...
This past week was delivered to me straight from hell in a toxic package wrapped in barbed wire. Okay, it wasn't that bad. It was pretty intense, though! It got me thinking about how hard the life of a stay at home mother is. Hard in a good way, no doubt... but hard nonetheless.
All of that was done IN BETWEEN cleaning, washing, cooking, practicing motor skills, reading, etc... Still don't think being a mother is a job? Stay at home Mothers (I don't mean women who stay at home while their children are elsewhere,) I mean Mothers who fully engage themselves in the JOB of being a mother... have one of the hardest duties in the world, with the smallest pay and absolutely no recognition. If we are lucky, our children will have gratitude, and that's why we decide to do it! There are times when these mothers wish we could just GO TO BED. (By the way, to this kind of mother, going to bed actually means entering a slightly conscious state where the worrying intensifies because it is now accompanied by pictures.) There are also times when we WISH we were at work, haha!
I can't help but think that it would be nice to have a coffee before work, a lunch break with pre-made meals, a conversation with at least one adult, be able to pick up a fed, changed, ready for bed baby... then get home to a house that's been unoccupied so all I'd really have to do is wash the clothes I wore to work that day, and bounce baby on my knee.
Not fun to be stereotyped, right? I know working mothers don't have it that easy! That was my rebound statement to the annoying and ignorant... "I'd love to stay home and play all day."
I don't play.